Ever since we were little girls we were always taught about an ideal man who would whisk away all of our fears and worries. Only to soon become our heros. The one who could solve all of our problems and could offer us the world …(and who always managed to be incredibly handsome). We were read the fairy tales before bed, and could only dream of one day being the princess in despair. But what happens when there is no prince charming, and you are the only person who can truly save yourself? So what does this all mean? In our life, we look to others to be the answer to our problems, or to cushion a potential fall. Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean you’re too reliant. It just means there’s some building to be done. I’ve seen people hand over their blocks to people expecting them to build them up to where they hope to be. You have the potential to break down stigmas, achieve short & long term goals, and essentially be the one to save others who have not yet found their powers. I urge you to expand your mind and become your own superwomen as you grow. So let’s explore the superwomen checklist!
1.Acknowledge your Faults and Weakness!
Accept that you are imperfect. We all are imperfect. The problem that arises with faults is not that you have them, it’s if you let them define you. Stop using, “I’m not good enough” as an excuse. How do you expect to succeed if you can’t access the very factors that stops you from doing so? Often times the only thing that holds us back from progressing is ourselves.
Take charge, and don’t apologize. We are so quick to impulsively say sorry because we don’t want to come across as bitchy. In this day and age, you’re not going to get very far if you don’t demand what you want. So walk around with your head up and conquer what you sought out for with no regrets. Confidence is beauty. It should never be demeaning, nor narcissistic.
3. Stand up for yourself!
Because no one else will. Slip into your thick skin. You have the power to be your own biggest bully. No one else will stand a chance compared to the damage you can cause yourself mentally. Don’t let negative people demean you. Yes, words are strong. But what you aspire to be is stronger. Fight for your rights through wise words and maturity. Show them your kindest side. FOCUS ON YOURSELF.
4.Be ‘Miss Independent’!
I know, I know. This is easier said than done. But you have to put your best foot forward. You can still ask for help, you’re not obligated to know everything. You are obligated to be in control. The idea is to be able to go to bed at night knowing that you do not have to rely on anyone or anything. This can range from financial stability to self-made happiness. You will learn more about who you are than you ever thought possible. Knowing you have the capability to tackle any factors in your life by yourself, can be rewarding. But it’s all about maintaining an optimistic mindset.
5. Be Courageous!
As Queen B says “I’m a survivor, I’m not gon’ give up“. It’s not easy to tackle a fear, because that requires you to venture out of your comfort zone. So, what if you establish new comfort zones? Sometimes fear is comfort because we are so quick to assume that whatever lingers outside of our comfort zone is scary. If everyone lived life being a servant of fear, there would be no progress made. History shows some of the greatest examples of courageous leaders who put aside fear to make a difference. Let fear motivate you. Not deter you.
xo, The girl behind leopard frames